Read Aaron Lazare’s requirements for an effective apology. These attempted apologies and expressions of consolation failed to elicit. Aaron Lazare, M.D., a noted scholar on the psychology of shame and humiliation, offers a thoroughly engaging and lucid examination of an important and. On Apology, by Aaron Lazare. New York, Oxford University. Press, , pp., $ What a pleasure to read a book by a prominent psychiatrist.

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On Apology – Aaron Lazare – Oxford University Press

But in the decades since World War II, several nations or individuals or groups within nations from both sides have apologized for their actions during that war.

Experience and History David Carr. One obvious example is where the offending party is deceased. The next morning, my wife asked again.

Jun 28, Thomas DeWolf rated it it was amazing Shelves: A Sociology of Apology and Reconciliation. It has the power to heal humiliations, free the mind from deep-seated guilt, remove the desire for vengeance, and ultimately restore broken relationships.

On Apology

One of the most profound interactions that can occur between people, apologies have the power to heal humiliations, free the mind from deep-seated guilt, remove the desire for vengeance, and ultimately restore broken relationships.

But just as people take pride in things for which they had no responsibility such as famous ancestors, national championships of their sports teams, and great accomplishments of their nationso, too, must these people accept the shame but not the guilt of their family, their athletic teams, and their nations.


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A causal relationship between apology and forgiveness is understandable based on this analysis of apology. Quick read, and full of sincerity. My daughter castigated her by saying, “You should have known oj I am allergic to nuts and would never have taken a brownie with nuts. He also discusses who should make apologies and when.

Lazare also discusses apologies in personal relationships. Such forgiveness is an abdication of our moral authority and our care for ourselves. Fogel and Donna B. Feeling sorry does not communicate acceptance of responsibility.

For what the book offers it could’ve been a hundred fewer pages. He doesn’t go into depth about a lot of things, but he does try to touch on many relevant topics.

Keys to Developing Expertise Mark E. He carefully disambiguates the elements of an apology, the motivations that push us to want apologies, the apologt that push us to want to give them, the timing of apologies, failed apologies, etc.

On Apology by Aaron Lazare

It’s disrespectful and wrong to apilogy people grovel and beg. Reparative justice, the fifth healing factor, occurs when the offended sees the offending party suffer through some type of punishment.

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She then said with smug pleasure on her face, “I love it when you apologize, Mother, because it makes you feel so foolish. The first chapter is so boring, but it ends with a rather interesting personal story from the author. This book talks about why some apologies succeed while others fail, focusing on apologies by individuals and collectives.

Share your thoughts with other customers. Dec 20, J rated it really liked it. Set up a giveaway. A fourth healing factor is the assurance that the offended party is safe from a repeat offense; such an assurance can come when an offender apologizes for threatening or committing physical or psychological harm to a victim.

Accepting national pride must include willingness to accept national shame when one’s country has not measured up to reasonable standards.